The glorification of anxious types only increased from there. I knew something was up when the chapter dedicated to explaining anxious attachment was twice as long as the chapter dedicated to avoidant attachment. The little bit I learned about the importance of having a secure base and deactivation techniq I'm convinced that all the 5 star reviews must be from anxiously attached people because this book offers nothing for anyone else lol. The whole book is really filtered through an anxious lens. I'm convinced that all the 5 star reviews must be from anxiously attached people because this book offers nothing for anyone else lol. By pretending that you don't care about being in a serious relationship, you are just attracting the wrong people for you (avoidants, if you are anxious). But, as the authors point out, it would make no sense, especially if you are anxiously attached. This seems to be the prevailing wisdom of most dating books out there. Or that a woman should play hard to get and make a man "chase" her. One of the biggest things I liked about this book is that the authors didn't suggest that we should all go around acting uninterested and like we don't want serious relationships, when we do. The book provides a lot of examples and checklists and inventories so that you can figure out what's going on in your relationship, how you might be exacerbating the problems, and give suggestions about how you could respond instead. I liked this book because I felt like it really helped me understand why a lot of the relationships I have stop working the way I want them to. Rather, they help you understand yourself and guide you in the direction you would like to go. They don't make you feel any shame for the category you fall into. According to the authors, 50% of the population is securely attached, 25% is anxious, and 25% avoidant. There are three types of attachment: secure, anxious, and avoidant. The author describes how attachment theory can be applied to romantic relationships. This book is better than most relationship books I have read. I don't want people to know that I spend time thinking about my relationship status. Not because it wasn't good, but because I have this thing about posting relationship-y self-help books on here. Acco I'm a little embarrassed to admit that I read this.
I'm a little embarrassed to admit that I read this.
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